Thnk before you Judge or Speak

To the couple sitting next me, my friend and 2 daughters at Izumi Restaurant on March 30, 2014, I want to give you some advice about judging others and thinking before you speak.  Yes, I acknowledge that our daughters were bickering throughout dinner, but what 10 years old who are like sisters don’t.  Perhaps, my friend and I didn’t handle it the way you would while raising your 6 children.  We didn’t yell at our children and applied what worked best in the past with them, to try correcting them , draw boundries and then ignore the bickering.  The restaurant was loud and the bickering did not add much noise to the already loud ambiance and the waitress wasn’t fazed by it either.

If you were bothered by the situation, you should have stopped by during dinner and asked us to keep it down, but instead you decided to judge us and snicker ‘HORRIBLE’ as you pasted by when leaving the restaurant.  Well, my polite daughter felt bad and asked to go out and apologize which we proceeded to follow you and mentioned that my ‘Horrible’ daughter wanted to apologize, but instead of taking the apology you felt you were empowered enough to point your finger at me and call me a horrible mother and advise me that you raised 6 children and have never seen such a horrible behavior and that the horrible person is me. 

Do you know me?  Do you know my daughter?  Do you know my situation?  Do you know that I lost a child a couple of weeks ago and that my friend wanted to take me out to cheer me up as I have not left my house in several weeks?  Do you know that my daughter may have been acting up as she has suffered a significant loss.  Are you telling me that your 6 children have been have acted perfect every day and never acted out?  Are you really so perfect that you can point in someone’s face and accuse them of being a horrible person, someone you have never seen or met?  As far as I know only one person has the right to judge and that is God, I and certainly do not think that you are God.

So as a grieving mother, I hope you will remember this and think before you speak and perhaps think about perhaps why a family may not be having a good moment, day or year and hopefully you will not be so quick to judge as we are all human.